“Stay Smitten” is a recurring blog feature filled with tangible relationship advice to help make sure your honeymoon is more than just a phase. That it’s a way of life. Why? Because marriages in which love shines the brightest have the power to change the world.
Dec. 25, 2016: Practicing dancing with dad for the wedding
March 14, 2017: Figuring out how the car service center’s automatic door works
July 10, 2017: Colin bringing home my favorite pizza
And the list goes on. And on. And on.
Every night for the last two years, I’ve jotted down in a journal at least two things that brought me joy that day. Sometimes they’re big moments (Jan. 6, 2017: “Married the love of my life!”) and sometimes they’re minuscule (June 10, 2018: “A warm cup of coffee.”). The significance of the entry isn’t important. Rather, it’s the fact that taking time to recognize the good in my life allows me to more easily see the glass half full all day, every day.
Without purposefully paying attention to the mountains of magic that surround me, it can be far too easy to feel like there’s not enough…not enough time, not enough progress being made, not enough kindness in the world, not enough ____________. Whatever you scribble in the blank, our default as humans to focus on the negative can be draining.
On the contrary, keeping a gratitude journal has trained my brain to look for miracles every. single. day. No matter if they’re milestones or so tiny that I wouldn’t remember them without putting them on paper, I know I need to watch for them to have something to write about that night.
Plus, when things don’t feel so rosy, it’s a blessing to open up my little notebook and let the gratitude slide off its pages, washing away whatever’s wrong in the moment.
Keeping a gratitude journal makes me happy. Gives me perspective. Allows me to lean into the good. Keeps me smitten—in life and love.
For these things, I am grateful.